Attraction is a concept that encompasses many parts. Some people are attracted to good looks, but what is good is extremely subjective. One man’s junk could be another man’s treasure. One woman might be attracted to the bearded lumberjack type, while another might like a longhaired rocker type, and others might like the bald guys. Bald guys need love, too!
Attraction can also come in the form of mannerisms, style, and overall mindset. You’ve got your energetic types, your mellow folks, and everyone in between. Then, of course, there’s wit, intellect, and sense of humor. I live for dry humor, sarcasm, and absolutely playing love mind games. I’m very attracted to people on my level, that get me, and know how to deal with me. That said, I can’t date a woman who drives the relationship car. Women drivers are the equivalent cold showers. Please understand that we’re not talking about cars, here, so all you Taliban folks out there CALM DOWN! I’m talking about relationships. Interestingly a lot of guys have no problem with it. Some are even attracted to the idea.
And yes, Sherlock, if you’re just now arriving at the conclusion that this isn’t an article about bodybuilding, then I must commend you. You’re Rhodes Scholar material!
I don’t see myself as being sexist or chauvenist. I believe in gender equality across the boards. I would say I’m a feminist and believe men and women should compete for everything based on merit. I don’t think one gender is better than the other. I don’t subscribe to one gender hunting and another gathering. That’s stereotypical bullshit and I’ve never been about that. I don’t think men need to be stone-faced and emotionless and I don’t think women need to be covered in makeup, fake nails, and hairsprayed to the Ozone Layer. That said, I do believe in doing whatever makes you happy. Happiness is key to a happy life. Sounds pretty redundant, doesn’t? Seems almost nonsensical to write, let alone say out loud, but there are a lot of people living a lie.
For example, I find it very hard to believe that any man would be happy being bossed around, told when to go from a bar, told what movie to watch, ordered for at a restaurant or instructed on what to do in other situations. It’s hard for me to believe that a man would be happy in that situation. And it’s equally, if not more so, difficult for me to believe that a woman wants a man like that. It’s one thing if a couple is 50/50 in most settings, even in one in particular, but for the guy to be passive? I struggle with that. Does she change you too, bro? Sorry. I just can’t wrap my head around that. And what’s crazy is that there’s men out there who look for women to put them in check. I mean look at Mike Pence, he calls his wife mother. I don’t even want to think about what that dynamic must be like. “You’ve been a bad boy, Mike.” LOL
Times are changing – to each their own. Women are opening doors for men and women are leading men on dancefloors. That’s cool if it makes those couples happy, but are the women doing that because they want to or because it’s a small price to pay to be with the guy they’re otherwise attracted to? The guy might be their type looks-wise, personality-wise, have the great job and be faithful, but lacking in the testosterone department. Maybe it’s not that big of a deal, but I just find myself trying not to stare. It’s like driving by a wreck on the highway and not rubbernecking. It’s one of the greatest temptations in my life. The worst is being stuck at a redlight and seeing a man in the passenger seat and the woman talking and talking. You know how they say a look is worth a thousand words? I’m always saying “you poor bastard,” with my eyes. The really sad ones don’t even look up from the floor. It might sound funny if it wasn’t true. Imagine if the guy spoke up and stood up for himself. I bet he’d be 10x happier and she’d want to go on a second, third, fourth and fifth honeymoon.
Are women attracted to doormats? Don’t they want a strong man to put their arm around them, take the lead down a dark alley, or reassure them when they need words of encouragement? Maybe that’s sexist, or maybe it’s reality. Men are bigger, we are stronger, and we are faster. That’s not sexism, that’s scientific fact. Women are probably smarter, I don’t doubt it, but maybe I’d argue it. I’m a lawyer, arguing is like my second language. That said, I find it very difficult to see a man ordered around in public. I wouldn’t like to see a woman ordered around, either, because that’s humiliating as well, but there are guys who love that. They love being what I’d call emasculated and humiliated in public. I have no doubt those guys exist, but I guess I’m very curious what kind of woman is drawn to that. I can’t imagine there are many. I can’t imagine a woman finds that hot. If anything, maybe the guys checks all the other boxes and they just learn to live with the fact their guy is a wimp.
Thoughts?
